Tips For Effectively Dealing With Wedding Stress

admin — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:14:43 +0000

This time of year many of our customers are busy planning their weddings. The build-up to getting married is such an exciting time for the happy couple and their families.

But … typically, we aren’t used to organizing big events. Our day jobs and training are probably in a different areas. So with the hundreds of things to remember and sort out, the organizational burden of the wedding can get too much. We can feel overloaded. Well, here are some simple methods for dealing effectively with wedding stress:

1. Note It

As soon as I start worrying that something needs to be done, I write it down on a Post-It note. And put the note in box-file on my desk. Then I try and forget about it and get on with what I should be doing – the task in hand. I like to clear the duty or worry from my mind so that I can concentrate on thoroughly enjoy what I’m doing. After all, people who enjoy what they are doing invariably do it well.

2. Sort It

Then when I’m feeling calm and organized I go through and empty each note from the box-file. Firstly, throwing out everything that is irrational or out-of-date. Worry is the interest you pay for something that may never happen. It’s great when some things just go away of their own accord or someone else does the job.

3. List It

Then from the remaining active Post-It notes, I write down a list of what needs to be done in order of priority. This becomes my To-Do list that prompts me into real action. My To-Do list is also like body armor, in that, I any anxious person starts nagging me then I can point to the item and say, ‘Don’t panic Captain Mainwaring, it is fine because I put that on my list’.

4. Do It

Tackling the top priority item is bound to carry more risk. It’s the top priority so, by definition, there is more at stake. More risk, but also more reward then you get it cleared off. This method helps clear my mind of distractions, avoid being overloaded, and stay focused on the things that matter.

That works great for tackling the important items. Here’s a complementary method which is fabulous for reducing the total amount of things you have to do. It’s called ‘The Two Minute Rule’

Learn The Two Minute Rule

If something can be done in two minutes then just do it. Don’t write it down as a task, don’t postpone it, do not procrastinate, just do it. After all it’s only two minutes of your life. Even it’s boring. Even if it’s dull. Even if it’s a pain. It’s only two minutes. This is miraculously effective in reducing the pile of things need to be done but haven’t. The result of a smaller total number of task is less intimidating. Also, you can report (or brag) about your successes to your partner and family. By clearing a small task you create a sense of momentum to take on something bigger.

Hopefully these simple methods of Note It, Sort It, List It, Do It and The Two Minute Rule will help to smooth over the organizing part of the wedding so you can concentrate on the emotional thrill of such a special and eventful time in your life.